Friday, March 17, 2017

Friend (5 Minute Friday)

I'm very excited to again this week join a talented group of women who connect each Friday in an online, unedited flash mob free write based on a one-word prompt from our fearless leader Kate Motaung. My timer is set for 5 minutes; let's see where the word "friend" takes me.

Wow! Once again, it's as if Kate has peeked into my journal or listened in during my quiet time. "Friends" has been a recurring theme for some time now.

For a myriad of reasons of circumstances

  • kids graduating from high school -- many of my most wonderful friendships were with moms of teammates, friends, etc.
  • moving almost an hour away to build a house and raise cows & chickens
  • becoming a widow
  • moving another 90 minutes away to the city to start a new job
  • moving back home but commuting 2 hours each way to that job
as well as things I could/should have done differently, I find myself with acquaintances and one or two quasi-friends and a larger number of Facebook friends (who I hold very dear) but no real friends. 

And oh, how my heart longs for friends. 

Friends who . . . 
  • share common values, but not necessarily beliefs
  • are available, who aren't incredibly busy, with no time left for friendships
  • like to do things -- travel (inexpensively), play cards or board games, go to sporting events, browse the local shops just for the fun of it, etc. -- and even try new things
  • don't have to always be doing something or talking about something 
But more importantly, friends . . .
  • with whom I can share openly and honestly and who know they can do the same
  • who understand 
  • with whom I can laugh until I cry
  • with whom I can share a few tears of sorrow and who feel comfortable doing the same
I read an article once about a lady who longed for over 15 years for what she called "book club -- possibly even without a book club -- friends." I knew just what she meant. She wasn't so much looking for monthly or weekly discussions about a book; she was searching for community.

As I age, I often feel the need to hurry, that time is precious and that I don't have so much that I can dilly-dally about finding what my heart searches for.



  1. They are hard to find. I forget sometimes not to take them for granted. Friendships need to be nurtured. Lovely post! I found you through FMF.

    1. Thank you for stopping by and sharing, Kathryn!

  2. I remember about 20 years ago my mom said to me "You are so lucky you have so many friends." I was really surprised because I honestly did not think I had many friends; I'm an introvert and a homebody and never felt I was surrounded by friends. But now I look back and see how many people in my life have moved away in the 20 years since she said that to me (I live in a university town where relationships can be transient), and I think I *did* have more friends back then. Now I have only a handful I'd say are really close. It is definitely hard to find friends in mid/later life. But I am SURE there are kindred spirits out there who feel just the same as you. Praying you connect with them. Thanks for sharing today.

    1. Thank you for sharing and for understanding, Jeannie, and even more so for your prayers.

  3. This upheaval is so prevalent in our present-day society. I know that kind of upheaval personally. It really can make it hard for most of us to have many deep and lasting friendships. But it is good to go back and review life and see how blessed we have been with the friendships we did have opportunity to enjoy for a time. Thank you for this post.

    1. I completely agree re: looking back and being thankful for friendships we did have. Each one was very precious!

  4. Patti, I remember when we first moved to the country 13 years ago. I had little ones and knew no one in our little town. Homeschool blogger WAS the greatest friend I had. In fact, I met one of my sweetest irl friends on HSB (even though she and her adorable family live in St. Louis). We usually arrange a few days together once or twice a year and text or chat in between. Our family enjoys each other and two of our boys are great buds.

    We have an extra bed so you feel free to drive up or over, spend some time making a real life friend any time! I promise life with my crew is never dull, lonely or quiet.